We spend SO much of our days doing things that we don’t want to do. We work, we exercise, we clean, we run errands, we take care of our families, we cook, we study. The list goes on and on and on. The world is full of people sprinting full speed through their day, just trying to get to the moment where they can crash into bed exhausted. If you’re like most of the 20-,30-,40- somethings in our world today I’m sure you can relate to this on most days.
But, why? Isn’t that just so silly? At this moment, I’m willing to bet that you’re probably sitting somewhere reading this, feeling guilty because you “should” be doing x,y, and z. Or maybe you’re on break at work, trying to frantically eat, scroll through your phone, and prepare for a meeting all at the same time. And you’re thinking that I’m ridiculous for even saying this because of course x, y, and z needs to happen and it’s unrealistic to think of doing anything differently because there’s just not enough time in the day.
Woof. My train of thought actually got a little frantic and shriek-y as I typed that out because it seriously hits way too close to home. I promise I’m not sitting on a high horse as I write this. Most days I’m right there with everyone, lacing up my running shoes and death gripping my to-do list like it’s my lifeline. (Translation: trying to keep my shit together until I get to be home to stress cry about what I didn’t make it to on my list and finally sleep.)
I’m going to get deep with you guys for a minute here. I used to take pride in not caring for myself. I’d brag; ” I only slept 3 hours last night. Ugh!” or, “I’ve been living on caffeine for days!” or even, “Oh my gosh, I literally haven’t had anything with actual nutrition in it all week.” Because it’s normal, no, expected that you be exhausted, drained, and pulled in so many directions that your health actually suffers. I felt validated and worthy the more tired, stressed, and overwhelmed I was. It really does seem ridiculous when you see it in writing like that, doesn’t it?
Enter the concept of self-care. It might be something that you practice every day or it might just be a word you see “trendy” people throwing around on Facebook. If you fall into the later category, you’ve come to the right place my friend.
It’s pretty easy when you break it down: Self-care is a necessary function of human life in order to stay physically, mentally, and emotionally healthy. Simply put, people who practice regular self-care are happier. And yet for some people, the idea of self-care is like a unicorn. Beautiful, but not real.
Let’s take a few minutes to talk about how to get you to become one of those mythical Facebook friends who dare to talk about the fact that they take time for themselves each day. It’s time that people who practice self-care come out of hiding and be proud of the fact that they prioritize themselves. If you don’t do it, I promise you that you’ll have a hard time finding others who prioritize you either.
Everyone is busy, I get it. I’m personally writing this at 9PM after working all day because I didn’t have time to get to it earlier. But with that said, I won’t still be sitting here at midnight editing my grammar so that it’s perfect to post tomorrow. No one will notice if I post it an hour later than normal tomorrow, and I’ll be happier all day tomorrow because I’ll have gotten enough sleep to conquer my day. Self-care my friends. Self-care.
My point is it doesn’t have to take hours to give yourself a little love. Eat a salad at lunch instead of a burger. Take a walk on your lunch instead of working through. Listen to an audio book you’ve been meaning to read while you drive home. Put your phone on airplane mode for an hour. Take a bath. Meditate. Take your pups for a nice walk. Paint your toes. Be grateful. This list can go on and on and on too.
You deserve self-care. You are worth it. So take a damn break already, would ya?!